I saw a meme posted in a Facebook group yesterday morning. It said:
“A healthy person has a million wishes. A person with a chronic illness only has one.”
At risk of offending a heap of people, I don’t entirely agree.
I agree that a chronically ill person wishes to be well, free of illness and pain, and perhaps wishes for a cure. They (we?) wish for employment, stability, access to healthcare and understanding from others.
But I also think that a chronically ill person has – and is entitled to – many other wishes and goals. We can be ambitious in our careers, relationships, social lives and hobbies. We are multi dimensional, and shouldn’t be limited by others’ assumptions.
I don’t wish to be cured but sometimes I wish to be free of pain (like today). And I also wish (and work hard) to one day be published by New Yorker Magazine, to speak at another international conference, to complete my phd, to write a book, to teach at a university, and to have a happy, long life with my partner.
What do you wish for?
(There were some great responses to this meme and question when I shared my thoughts on Facebook yesterday.)