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On lost love/like

September 16, 2010 Carly Findlay 10 Comments

I had a large blog entry here, but I felt guilty for publishing it. I probably don’t need to tell the world everything. It’s not fair to.

So all I’ll leave you with this this edited version… (Thanks for your comments, I have chosen not to publish them. It is nice to know you all care.)

‘The hardest thing that I could do is to watch you walk away and know that you won’t turn back…’ ~ Genevieve Maynard – Pillar of Salt

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  1. hollypop says

    September 16, 2010 at 9:45 pm

    carly, we don't each other very well but i am going to be super frank (i'm not good at beating 'round the bush)
    1. he sounds like a tool. (and i think you're making him sound nicer than he is, because you're a sweet person.)
    2. he may has said nice things. but it was just talk. he is acting like an unnice guy. and how is is behaving now is super unattractive.
    3. you need to say this: "NEXT!"

    <3

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  2. Yelleana says

    September 16, 2010 at 9:51 pm

    Like I think I said in my previous comment I stumbled on your blog recently (I think through businesschic) and just happened to have a quick check as you posted this.

    I must commend you on being so sincere, forgiving and reflective on whatever your situation is. I think I feel so strongly because I was in a similar situation (mine was a full blown relationship but that is irrelevant)… this guy is an absolute JERK… I am going to say it to you straight… what a selfish, immature and full of shit type of guy.

    He said what he knew you wanted and/or needed to hear and then he "defriends" you when things get complicated! I knowwww you must have strong feelings for him and perhaps he was even the one you had been waiting for (been there lol) but you must do a switchero in your head. Thankfully you found out now then this had dragged on… you should "block" him from fb and do not validate a second of his destructive behaviour.

    You seem to be a wonderful girl and you do not deserve to be treated like this and head f*ckd. Good for you for writing a letter and letting go of your emotions – that takes some serious strength to do that! He should be honoured to have received something like that… take it as a lesson learned, listen to lyrics that make you strong and empower you and do some totally wonderful things for yourself!

    Hope you feel better to! And if you like I can be your new facebook friend ( LOL just to prove I am not a stalker!!!):):) "Chin up"

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  3. Anonymous says

    September 7, 2015 at 10:18 pm

    I think you are reading way too much into this and trying to find answers to questions that can't be solved. In my opinion you cannot be friends with someone that you have been in a relationship with or have feelings for. He has therefore done the right thing to remove you as a facebook friend and you should cut off all contact with him (at least until your feelings subside). I also think you should probably remove these blog posts. Whatever you do – do not drunk phone / text him. It does not sound like your conversations with him are doing you any good. Trust me – you will feel better soon!!! You need to be tough on yourself in these situations so that you don't dwell on things. Surround yourself with friends and family. See a movie. Invite friends over for dinner. Good luck 🙂

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  4. Just a girl says

    September 7, 2015 at 10:18 pm

    if i have learnt anything from my break up its that words mean nothing and actions say it all. sorry if it hurts but you cant rely on what people say, because people lie no matter how much they care for you, its a cruel world out there.
    keep your head up!

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  5. flair to remember says

    September 7, 2015 at 10:18 pm

    Oh, Carly ~ I'm so sorry that you're going through this! It doesn't matter how quick something was or how fast you fell, feelings are feelings + this one's put you through the wringer.
    The things he said at the beginning were lovely, that's true ~ but I agree with the other 2 commenters, he is acting so so terrible now, immature + not worthy of you at all.
    You have an amazing partner in store for you ~ maybe roads like this are just there to make the sweet, sweeter.. in the end..
    Thinking of you + your poor heart. You deserve the world!
    Lots of love to you!!
    xoxoxo

    PS: I totally reckon you'll be getting fanmail once your show airs!! YEWE! 🙂

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  6. Mez says

    September 7, 2015 at 10:18 pm

    Oh Carly 🙁

    I am at work on night duty and there are some pretty sad stories new diagnosis' floating around here tonight.

    Yet, this story has touched my heart the most. I hope you're ok chicken, it seems like you're taking on board his feelings with a LOT of compassion and respect. I only hope he does the same for you.

    Much love. xo

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  7. Anonymous says

    September 7, 2015 at 10:18 pm

    A funny thing happened to me this week Carly. I happened to be somewhere, when a guy I used to feel like this (mad, crazy, deep, physical, terrible love) for walked in with his new girlfriend on his arm.

    I'm tall, pretty, thin, well groomed and well dressed and its fair to say she's my opposite in every way. Then my friends told me that she is long term unemployed, has no interest in bettering herself, and (as mean as it may sound) she's not the sharpest pencil in the box. I'm bright, well educated and have a fabulous well paying job.

    Two things suddenly occurred to me:

    1) I realised that she bore a striking resemblance to his ex wife… in every way…

    and

    2) He has a "type"… and I'M NOT IT!

    I spent literally years pining over this guy. Years. I couldn't understand what else I could do or be to make him want me… what could have been wrong with me??? Turns out, I was just too fabulous!

    YOU are deeply fabulous Carly, and next time you see this guy, I sincerely hope you too have an "ah-ha" moment and realise that he just isn't aiming high enough to be with someone as amazing as you. Its a very liberating feeling… I'm still catching myself smiling about it.

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  8. Elle says

    September 7, 2015 at 10:18 pm

    I'm really sorry, Carly. Hope you are doing okay and I know one day you will find the amazing boy that you deserve.

    Linda xo

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  9. Sydney Shop Girl says

    September 7, 2015 at 10:18 pm

    Stay strong, Carly 🙂

    This too will pass.

    SSG xxx

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  10. Anonymous says

    September 7, 2015 at 10:18 pm

    I agree with the others. You are amazing and deserve better. Now please take of yourself – keep busy, hire those non rom-com DVDs and give yourself some time. It will hurt for a while but seriously, as awful as this is to say, better now than later when he could hurt you more!

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