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Losing some but winning heaps more.

March 21, 2013 Carly Findlay 12 Comments


Last night I told someone to fuck off as they were very rude about my appearance.

This is how it went:

Man at tram stop, staring: “What have you done to your face?”

Me: Nothing. I was born like this.”

Man, shaking his head: “I don’t believe it. Where were you born?”

Me: “Australia.”

Man, laughing at me: “I don’t believe it.”

Me: “Fuck off.”

I don’t swear at people often but man, sometimes they deserve it. And it feels good.

(And it’s ironic – or is it? Alanis always makes me wonder – when I’ve written this piece about having a conversation with people with visible differences that’s generated so much discussion.)

While its important to educate people, it’s also not unreasonable to want a break from it all. I’m not always polite when I get questions, especially when someone mocks my truthful answers. Sometimes a big “Fuck Off” is all that’s needed when people are extremely rude, and that’s ok too. I don’t have to endure or be polite all the time.

But it’s funny for all the rude people I meet (which aren’t that many really), the wonderful people outweigh these tenfold. I was out last night to see the wonderful Glen Hansard and The Frames play at the Melbourne Recital Centre – a review is to come. In short – it was amazing.

Just before Glen came on stage, I popped out to get a drink, and on the way back, I saw someone who looked familiar sitting in the seat in front of mine. It was Julia Stone! She saw me, leapt up and gave me a big warm hug and we had a five minute chat. She’s so lovely. And that little gesture, from someone I really admire, meant the world after the fuckwit I encountered earlier.

I lose some, but I win heaps more. Life’s good!

 

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  1. Veggie Mama says

    March 22, 2013 at 11:41 am

    You're absolutely right – sometimes a huge "fuck off" is good for the soul! Kick ass, sista x

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  2. EmmySausage says

    March 22, 2013 at 5:22 pm

    What a total loser- some people are just ridiculously stupid. A "fuck off" was definitely warranted in this situation! I think you are awesome.

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  3. EmmySausage says

    March 22, 2013 at 5:22 pm

    What a total loser- there is something seriously wrong with some people. A "fuck off" was definitely warranted in this situation! I think you are awesome.

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  4. EmmySausage says

    March 22, 2013 at 10:09 pm

    Oops. Thought my first post didn't work so posted it again- should I do it once more just so you are truly sick of reading it?

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  5. the old boathouse says

    March 23, 2013 at 8:25 am

    Oh my goodness I so so agree! It's so impowering sometimes to tell ignorant rude people where to go. This is my first time visiting your blog. But my friend Anne-Marie Russell speaks so highly of you and is a huge fan I wanted to stop by and say hello. I follow you on Instagram too. In reference to this post I give the time to children to explain but more often with adults now I think they should just know by now. But no matter how many times I still can't believe how plain rude people are and why they think it is appropriate to comment in the first place. Xxxx Katherine

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  6. Mrs Woog says

    March 23, 2013 at 8:55 am

    Sometimes, it is the only thing left to say.

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  7. Sarah Style Unearthed says

    March 24, 2013 at 1:11 pm

    I'm so glad your night got better! Some people have not heard the old saying 'if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all'.

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  8. anywhichwayup says

    March 25, 2013 at 3:04 pm

    Represent, Carly!
    REPRESENT!!
    (ie well done on totes telling that guy to fuck the hell off)
    cilla x

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  9. Leisa says

    March 26, 2013 at 9:14 am

    I agree. You can only take so much and can only be giving with yourself for so long until you meet that one person who deserves nothing more than, "Fuck off!"

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  10. Sass says

    March 26, 2013 at 5:27 pm

    I'm sorry you had to go through that on the tram. People like that definitely deserve a big 'fuck off'!!!

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  11. Grace says

    March 29, 2013 at 11:09 am

    I need to learn when someone deserves a "fuck off!" And the wins are so, so much better!

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  12. muchlove says

    April 1, 2013 at 11:21 pm

    Go you!!!

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