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The standard we walk past is the standard we accept. On attitudes and allies towards disability.

April 21, 2015 Carly Findlay Leave a Comment

This past month I’ve become involved in a number of heated online discussions around disability, equality and ableism. The conversations were around the use of accessible toilets by people without disabilities and the ableism shown towards a prominent disabled Australian by a media personality on a TV program. I conversed (and face-palmed) with people with disabilities and without.

(In one instance I was called a ‘judgemental piece of work’ – I’m proud of that because I stood my ground on accessibility issues when no one else in the conversation believed that accessible toilets are priority for people with disabilities. I used factual, calm language and didn’t resort to name calling. A friend told me that I get proud by laughing off those insults – the insults that are used when they realise their behaviour is wrong. I am proud to be an activist.)

In both conversations I was told (by people without disabilities) that there are bigger issues to worry about. (I agree, there are bigger issues relating to disability – employment, pensions, abusers in care, sheltered workshops, education and the list goes on. But these so called smaller issues impact on our days.) These bigger issues weren’t named in the conversations – but I wonder if bigger issues relating to disability came to their minds, or whether they were issues that weren’t specific to disability? And while in isolation, these issues may seem small, these are the issued faced by 20 percent of the Australian community on a daily basis. I see the dismissing of these issues as another barrier to disability.

The attitudinal barriers towards disability are as limiting as the physical barriers. If we keep saying there are more important issues than a disabled person’s right to use an accessible toilet or how we use language about or towards people with disabilities, or ridiculing disability on TV, attitudes towards disability won’t change.

The standard we walk past is the standard we accept. 
It’s rare that there wouldn’t be a level of outrage about someone publicly ridiculing another’s race or sexuality in 2015 so why should disability be a lesser issue? Why should we shut up about this?

The more I talk about disability issues, the more I realise the attitudinal barriers towards disability are  still so present. There’s such a blasé attitude. It doesn’t affect them…it won’t happen to them…try telling a child to wait for a disabled toilet…disabled people are other… no disrespect but… And frankly, I’m tired of non disabled people deciding what’s offensive, and what access requirements and issues are important. Sure, have input into conversations, ask for advice, but don’t tell us our issues aren’t important enough to be voiced and progressed for change. Because that contributes to inaccessibility.

These conversations I had recently weren’t about the issues that I face. And I haven’t always been aware of all the issues the disability community faces – it’s through getting to know people and research that I’ve discovered them. I don’t use accessible toilets unless I need to wash my face in transit. And I haven’t been mocked on national TV. But they’re issues for my friends – for my community – and so I take ownership and responsibility for them. I’ve become an ally, even when I’m in the disability community. We need allies to progress disability issues – to show the wider community that disability issues need to be spoken about and supported, and is nothing to be ridiculed or feared.

As writer and disability ally Clementine Ford wrote for The Age, 

“It’s time the status quo starts declaring our solidarity with our disabled peers, colleagues, fellow Australians, children, elderly, family members and citizens, all of whom have been saying this for far too long with too little response.” 

We need to work together to create change, and we need to start with these smaller issues. We can’t accept them, overlook them or dismiss them as too small to address. It’s up to all of us. Because we’re not there yet.

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  1. Sydney Shop Girl says

    April 22, 2015 at 2:15 am

    Beautifully written and challenging words for me to think about and act upon.

    SSG xxx

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  2. Talya Goding says

    April 22, 2015 at 3:59 am

    I agree entirely with this post. I suffer a disabilty and often get abused or looked down upon if I am spotted walking out of a disabled toilet because I am not in a wheelchair people assume I do not suffer and can use a normal toilet. But the reality is, I try to use a normal toilet to avoid being embarrassed. But, I had colorectal cancer so had my large bowel removed and have an ileostomy which sometimes a toilet cubicle isn't very accommodating.. imagine next time going to the toilet and turning around to lean over the toilet and there isn't any space at all… I have had to at times show people my ileostomy so they would stop abusing me for using a disabled toilet. People are so quick to judge! Thanks for the great post

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  3. Hayley Goleniowska says

    April 23, 2015 at 11:44 am

    Great post. People are very quick to judge and have an opinion on everything. I do find the general acceptance that those with a disability, intellectual or physical just don't quite count as much, very distressing. Together we can change that.

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  4. The Boyds says

    April 27, 2015 at 6:27 am

    Well said 🙂

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