Ichthyosis Awareness Month – Alexander and Maria’s stories: “I try to ignore these comments and stares but it makes me sad, and I feel so different.”

“My name is Alexander and I am 11 years old. I like playing and watching soccer.

Since I was very little, people have asked me if I’ve been sunburnt or make comments about the way I look. My parents and I get stopped quite often and people always feel free to give their advice or just stare at me when I’m walking past.

I try to ignore these comments and stares but it makes me sad, and I feel so different.

I often reply to people’s comments or questions with ‘no, I was born like this’. See, I was born with Ichthyosis, a disorder that makes my skin red and flaky.

I am excited about going to the conference in May because I get to meet other people like me. My mum has always talked about going to the US to a conference but now we get to have one here, in Australia. I will be able to ask them questions about how to look after my skin better and maybe even help others by sharing how I take care of myself. I would like to ask them how they answer people’s comments or deal with people’s stares and what its like when I grow up. I can’t wait till May!!”

Maria:

“Nearly 12 years ago, my husband and I were so excited to be expecting our first child.

I read all about the stages and development of the foetus and knew all the labour options available to us. We was prepared! Or so I thought.

From the moment my son was born, I knew something was wrong. As I held my child, I could see the pain in his eyes and I could see the panic in the nurses and obstetricians face. They told me that my son, Alexander was not going to daycare, or play outside with other children. All I could think of was that my child was going to be at home, no friends, no life!!!

We have always had an amazing medical network and supportive family and friends, but I still felt alone at the time. There was no one who REALLY understood. The most difficult thing to deal with was the lack of information we had available at the time. The literature was quite complex to understand and didn’t provide us with tips or other helpful information on how to look after our son.

Its hard to believe that 11 years later Alexander would have attended daycare since the age of one, swims in the local swimming pool and has fun at Wet n Wild during summer, participates in school sports, plays soccer and has a great group of friends at school and out of school. He touches everyone he meets with his funny and ‘glass half full’ attitude.

We are so fortunate to have an energetic and inspirational person like Carly in our lives. Her stories drive others to strive to achieve their goals, no matter the challenges you are dealt with. There is no limit!

She is the driving force for the first Australian Ichthyosis meeting that will be held in May 2015 and we are so excited. It means that we get to share stories with others, make new friends and my son will not feel so different. He will realize that he can achieve whatever he sets his mind to. We are really looking forward to it.”