Carly Findlay

Writer, speaker, appearance activist. Loving life!

  • About me
  • Say Hello – my book
  • Hire me!
  • Support Me
  • Contact
  • What is Ichthyosis?
  • Ichthyosis + appearance diversity resources
  • Disclaimer
  • Shop
  • Guest post contribution guidelines
  • Growing Up Disabled in Australia

On the weight of expectations.

July 10, 2016 Carly Findlay Leave a Comment

 

I’m not going to get it right all the time.

Even though I’m an activist.

Even though I’m an advocate.

Even though I have a disability.

 

I won’t live up to your expectations.

They’re sometimes lofty.

There’s a standard for me, yet a standard for others.

 

I will fail you.

But the weight of my own failure in my eyes is thousandfold.

I overthink and aim to please, always.

 

I won’t be polite.

I’ll swear.

And get angry.

I’m not going to respond to every injustice with dignity.

Because I’m tired.

 

I’ll sometimes contradict my values and what I’ve written previously.

You can Google, and catch me out.

But I’ll keep trying my best.

 

I am human.

Just like them,

Human, just like everyone else.

As you keep telling me.

 

I’ll make mistakes.

And I’ll apologise when I’ve hurt people.

But I’ll make mistakes.

Just like you.

 

 

Share this:

  • Print (Opens in new window) Print
  • Email a link to a friend (Opens in new window) Email
  • Share on X (Opens in new window) X
  • Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook

Related

Uncategorized

Comments

  1. Elisha Wright says

    July 10, 2016 at 11:41 pm

    Very well written Carly. I always say to people who complain about the way I advocate or my activism activities that if they want their opinion heard then maybe they should give it a go themselves rather than complaining to me that I'm doing it wrong. Love ya to bits xo

    Log in to Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

You must be logged in to post a comment.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Copyright © 2026 · Daily Dish Pro Theme on Genesis Framework · WordPress · Log in