Two year cancerversary – here’s what I’ve learnt about survivorship

Today is two years since I had a full uterectomy and entered early menopause, and was diagnosed with Ovarian and Endometrial Cancer.

It was a lot to get used to all at once, especially while recovering from major surgery. And treatment was really, really hard – particularly chemotherapy. I still have residual side effects (hello two skin cancers on my face in a year!). I am cancer free now, and have been since January 2025.

Something I wasn’t prepared for, though, is how hard Survivorship is.

Being hyper-vigilant about every little niggle; and increasing my bone density.

Constantly worrying about cancer recurrence and poor survival rate post diagnosis (the Ovarian Cancer five year survival rate is 49%).

Feeling dead tired, physically and emotionally – and being expected to function at pre-cancer capacity.

Struggling with work being tied to my identity and not being able to work as much or in the same way prior to cancer; and feeling forgotten in the sector. Plus building back my savings.

Changes to my body. I lost weight and I didn’t recognise myself, and now my body has changed again because of menopause. I got fat-shamed online the other day. I’ve also feared carcinogenic food.

Realising that I have little in common with my friends and peers who are going through peri menopause, because I didn’t ease my way into menopause. And being medically gaslit about the symptoms.

It’s a lot.

Today was a full circle moment as I graduated from my cancer psych, who’s been the best.

We talked about how I’ve achieved so much:

I’ve raised $13,000+ for Ovarian Cancer Research Foundation over two Frocktobers (and I’m an @ocrf ambassador).

I’ve been asked to write and advise on cancer topics – for the media and academia.

I’ve become a cancer mentor to friends who are newly diagnosed, and I’ve made friends in the cancer community.

I’ve learnt to step back from and set boundaries around my advocacy work. I’m satisfied I’m doing enough.

Thanks to Pilates and yoga, I’m the fittest and strongest I’ve ever been – and love it.

I speak unashamedly about women’s health, cancer and my access needs.

I started writing my next book about a life changing trip & diagnoses.

I’m proud.

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image: Carly, a woman with red skin and short dark curly hair, wearing a pink jumper over a green floral dress, and black boots, her hand is on her hip, she is standing outside a cafe smiling.